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CallmeVee
Hey everyone, for the record, I am a lesbian and I'd appreciate it if only OPEN MINDED people answer my question.
I'm about to be 24 next month, and my girlfriend is 25. We love each other very much and I've always been the type to plan ahead. I have a ton of reasons on why I do it.
Any how, my girlfriend wants a big wedding and so do I. Today I asked her what kind of ring she'd like, she said a platinum diamond ring. I looked at some online and it made me want to marry her tomorrow. lol Very beautiful. To sum this all up, we're not traditional people, I don't want my dad walking me down the isle, I also don't want our fathers paying for the wedding seeing that it will be two women getting married so it's not like, "So is your dad paying or mine?" and I doubt either of us will be wearing white. The reason I don't want them to pay is because she's going to be MY wife, which means I'm supposed to give her what she wants and give her the wedding she dreams about.
I plan on moving out the state for a higher paying job, just for a little while so I can save up thousands of dollars.
Now she and I have only talked so much about the wedding in the future, but I think of it everyday because I want to get started on saving now! I'm sure I'm gonna buy her a ring that's around 1 to 3 thousand dollars. Just like every woman, we want our wedding to be beautiful. What would be a good price range for a big beautiful wedding?
and FYI, no my girl is not a gold digger, nor is she money hungry. She's a true definition of Independent. She does everything on her own, she does SO-MUCH for everyone and doesn't like for anyone to do anything for her, not even me! So it'd be a blessing to give her the wedding she wants. We're high school sweethearts and I just want her to be happy.
Can you ladies (and gents) please give me some advice? I'd really appreciate it.
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Firstly , from what I read & see the majority of couples getting married these days do pay for their own wedding.( at least in western cultures) So what you are considering is NOT unusual there.
AS to having your father walking you down the aisle- That is entirely your choice as well. Having him ''escort '' you down the aisle does not mean that he has ""to give you away"" during the ceremony.
I have been to weddings where the bride walked alone, with her mother, both parents, child, father & stepfather together or in tandem. with the groom & even with the ex husband :-) . Also I have seen stories where both parties have been escorted down the aisle by their parents.
When each of my nephews got married they included the wording "" Who brings this man to this marriage"" as part of the ceremony as well as "" Who brings this woman"" : notice the words were NOT ** who gives**
You can have a big wedding as in numbers without necessarily spending BIG $$$$. Having said this though you need to be creative, ask for / accept help from family & friends. Someone may be very artistic & would be delighted to make your invitations as a gift to you. Another person make be a great cake maker & thrilled to make your cake.
Think outside the square in regards to your outfits ; look at all sorts , not just ones called wedding dresses etc. I saw a picture of a magnificent citrus green dress recently.
https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn2/1209407_10151871310189516_1132350750_n.jpg
What you both need to do is to sit down & work out an affordable budget for you & plan around that.
No -one else can tell you what a beautiful wedding is - as everyone has their own ideas about that.
Before you start sending out invitations to everyone you know - just so you have BIG numbers- stop & think about who is important in your life. Do you interact with ABC on a regular basis? would you ask DEF to your place to dinner? How long is it since you have seen Great Aunt Jo? Have these people been a significant part of your lives in recent years.Only ask the people who you really want to be with you to share your day, regardless of whether that only turns out to be 30 people or if it is 100.
Also consider do you want your celebration to be a relaxed event or something more formal.
How much would you like to actually interact with you guests on the day. The more people you have attending the harder that is to do.
Assume that everyone you invite will attend . Yes there will be some who for whatever reason wont be able to make it . BUT you don't invite 100 people when you can really only afford to cater for 80 & hope that at least 20 will say they cant come.
You may well decide that a relaxed cocktail party type of event will give you more of a chance to mingle than if you had a formal sit down dinner.
Have a look at the following site for some ideas:-
offbeatbride.com
http://offbeatbride.com/2013/09/seattle-burlesque-wedding
http://offbeatbride.com/filed/real-weddings/global
http://offbeatbride.com/2013/08/massachusetts-camp-wedding
http://offbeatbride.com/2013/07/georgia-games-wedding
I have included some links to some specific pages , just for you to see quickly how diverse weddings can be,
Look through the archives section as well.
Keep in mind that your wedding should be a reflection of who you & your partner are - NOT someone else's idea of what a wedding should be.
The things I have said here are what I would say to my own kids - all of whom are now adults.
Also in regards to rings - don't just look at the $$$ for the ring ; look first at styles that your partner likes & something that she is going to be happy wearing. If you find something that she absolutely loves & it is only $500 , then that is what you get. There may be one sitting beside it that is priced at $5000- but she does not like it - so forget that one. The $$$ value is not important .
I hope that I have given you some things to think about & GOOD LUCK with your plans.
Firstly , from what I read & see the majority of couples getting married these days do pay for their own wedding.( at least in western cultures) So what you are considering is NOT unusual there.
AS to having your father walking you down the aisle- That is entirely your choice as well. Having him ''escort '' you down the aisle does not mean that he has ""to give you away"" during the ceremony.
I have been to weddings where the bride walked alone, with her mother, both parents, child, father & stepfather together or in tandem. with the groom & even with the ex husband :-) . Also I have seen stories where both parties have been escorted down the aisle by their parents.
When each of my nephews got married they included the wording "" Who brings this man to this marriage"" as part of the ceremony as well as "" Who brings this woman"" : notice the words were NOT ** who gives**
You can have a big wedding as in numbers without necessarily spending BIG $$$$. Having said this though you need to be creative, ask for / accept help from family & friends. Someone may be very artistic & would be delighted to make your invitations as a gift to you. Another person make be a great cake maker & thrilled to make your cake.
Think outside the square in regards to your outfits ; look at all sorts , not just ones called wedding dresses etc. I saw a picture of a magnificent citrus green dress recently.
https://fbcdn-sphotos-f-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn2/1209407_10151871310189516_1132350750_n.jpg
What you both need to do is to sit down & work out an affordable budget for you & plan around that.
No -one else can tell you what a beautiful wedding is - as everyone has their own ideas about that.
Before you start sending out invitations to everyone you know - just so you have BIG numbers- stop & think about who is important in your life. Do you interact with ABC on a regular basis? would you ask DEF to your place to dinner? How long is it since you have seen Great Aunt Jo? Have these people been a significant part of your lives in recent years.Only ask the people who you really want to be with you to share your day, regardless of whether that only turns out to be 30 people or if it is 100.
Also consider do you want your celebration to be a relaxed event or something more formal.
How much would you like to actually interact with you guests on the day. The more people you have attending the harder that is to do.
Assume that everyone you invite will attend . Yes there will be some who for whatever reason wont be able to make it . BUT you don't invite 100 people when you can really only afford to cater for 80 & hope that at least 20 will say they cant come.
You may well decide that a relaxed cocktail party type of event will give you more of a chance to mingle than if you had a formal sit down dinner.
Have a look at the following site for some ideas:-
offbeatbride.com
http://offbeatbride.com/2013/09/seattle-burlesque-wedding
http://offbeatbride.com/filed/real-weddings/global
http://offbeatbride.com/2013/08/massachusetts-camp-wedding
http://offbeatbride.com/2013/07/georgia-games-wedding
I have included some links to some specific pages , just for you to see quickly how diverse weddings can be,
Look through the archives section as well.
Keep in mind that your wedding should be a reflection of who you & your partner are - NOT someone else's idea of what a wedding should be.
The things I have said here are what I would say to my own kids - all of whom are now adults.
Also in regards to rings - don't just look at the $$$ for the ring ; look first at styles that your partner likes & something that she is going to be happy wearing. If you find something that she absolutely loves & it is only $500 , then that is what you get. There may be one sitting beside it that is priced at $5000- but she does not like it - so forget that one. The $$$ value is not important .
I hope that I have given you some things to think about & GOOD LUCK with your plans.
some ideas for a unique gift for a woman who's turning 80?
Cheribaby
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make her a photo album with pictures from past to present. like a timeline sort of thing. include pictures from old cds and movies that came out when she was born and every other year after. i sure she would LOVE it!!
make her a photo album with pictures from past to present. like a timeline sort of thing. include pictures from old cds and movies that came out when she was born and every other year after. i sure she would LOVE it!!
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