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I have three close friends that I give birthday gifts to. I got married in 2006. They don't give gifts to my husband just me. I feel like they don't put effort into the gifts anymore and I put thought and money into them. How can I stop giving birthday gifts. We are hoping we will have a baby soon and would like to only give gifts to kids no adults anymore. How do you do it nicely?
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I would talk to your friends about this. Just tell them that now that your family is getting bigger and that you and your husband are planning to start a family soon, you would prefer not to do "gifts" for friends b-days anymore. See how they feel about it. If they aren't putting much effort into the gifts anymore, they may agree. If they are totally against giving up this tradition, then you will need to decide how much this means to you and your friendships.
You could suggest that instead of gifts, that you just do dinner for each of your birthdays. I think it is very nice to take a friend out to dinner for their birthday rather than giving a gift. (This is what my friends do!)
I would not suggest that you would like to just give gifts to the kids unless your friends have kids as well. I know many single people miss out on getting gifts that others get (wedding gifts, kids gifts, shower gifts, etc) and they may feel that it is not fair that they still need to get a gift for your kid but you never need to get your single friend a gift anymore.
Another idea. If your friends atill want to give gifts for birthdays, I would just keep your gift giving simple and inexpensive. I usually keep track of what my friends have gotten me for my birthday to help me gauge how much to spend on them.
Good luck with this. I would bring it up casually and be open to suggestions from your friends as well!
I would talk to your friends about this. Just tell them that now that your family is getting bigger and that you and your husband are planning to start a family soon, you would prefer not to do "gifts" for friends b-days anymore. See how they feel about it. If they aren't putting much effort into the gifts anymore, they may agree. If they are totally against giving up this tradition, then you will need to decide how much this means to you and your friendships.
You could suggest that instead of gifts, that you just do dinner for each of your birthdays. I think it is very nice to take a friend out to dinner for their birthday rather than giving a gift. (This is what my friends do!)
I would not suggest that you would like to just give gifts to the kids unless your friends have kids as well. I know many single people miss out on getting gifts that others get (wedding gifts, kids gifts, shower gifts, etc) and they may feel that it is not fair that they still need to get a gift for your kid but you never need to get your single friend a gift anymore.
Another idea. If your friends atill want to give gifts for birthdays, I would just keep your gift giving simple and inexpensive. I usually keep track of what my friends have gotten me for my birthday to help me gauge how much to spend on them.
Good luck with this. I would bring it up casually and be open to suggestions from your friends as well!
Should you wrap a birthday gift in Christmas colored paper if the b-day is near Christmas?
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My friend's birthday was on the 20th. I'm mailing her a birthday gift which she'll receive a few days after Christmas.
Should I wrap it in Christmas color paper with Christmas designs even though it's not a Christmas gift, or wrap it like I normally would with different colored paper?
Also, should I send her a Christmas present?
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As someone whose birthday is very near Christmas, I can say I hated it when people wrapped my gifts in Christmas paper! Half the time, I wouldn't know whether it was supposed to be for my birthday or Christmas. I'm older now, and don't mind it so much, but still prefer birthday paper.
If she buys you gifts for your birthday and Christmas, you must reciprocate. Don't think one gift covers both occasions, if you got two gifts (unless your gift to her is expensive).
We December babies like to have our birthdays treated as our own special day, as much as anybody! Not just lumped in with another holiday.
Having a birthday near Christmas pretty much sucks. You get half as much as you would have any other time of the year. Not that that is the point, of course (except when you're a kid). But still.
As someone whose birthday is very near Christmas, I can say I hated it when people wrapped my gifts in Christmas paper! Half the time, I wouldn't know whether it was supposed to be for my birthday or Christmas. I'm older now, and don't mind it so much, but still prefer birthday paper.
If she buys you gifts for your birthday and Christmas, you must reciprocate. Don't think one gift covers both occasions, if you got two gifts (unless your gift to her is expensive).
We December babies like to have our birthdays treated as our own special day, as much as anybody! Not just lumped in with another holiday.
Having a birthday near Christmas pretty much sucks. You get half as much as you would have any other time of the year. Not that that is the point, of course (except when you're a kid). But still.
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