I am 18 yrs old. but I look younger. Advice?

I am a 18 yr. old female jamaican woman... but I look like a 15-16 year old.. How can I look my age? Should I get a piercing would that help?

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embrace it! because later on you'll be like 50 but look 40. its a gift!!

My Jamaican in-laws don't like me???!!!?

**ME**

Ok..not to say that it's only a 'Jamaican' thing. But that's what they are, so it is what it is. I emphasize 'Jamaican' because I'm feeling that it's because of my nationality. My issue is..

My hubby and I have been together for years...and in turn we are now happily married. He is a jamaican national...turned 'american' citizen by way of you know....I'm from the US..etc etc..

Anyway...his friends and most family 'don't like' me. Or shoud I say, the 'idea' of me. For I have never formally met them...so I'm not understanding why.

They don't disrespect me in any way...but it's like they just plain out don't RESPECT me. They always refer to me with an adjective...like 'foreign' or something describing me as being an American. OH YEAH!...and a YANKEE!

I don't want to explain all my experiences in detail..all in all, I'm feeling like this:

They think I'm like a downgrade or that my husband 'settled for less' by marrying an American girl.

What's up with that? I love my husband for who he is, not because he is Jamaican..and vice versa. Might I add, I LOVE the culture..and he loves the American culture. So what's all the animosity about?

The only ones that are nice are the ones that 'beg'. I find this to be ridiculous.

Is there like a big cultural issue in Jamaica when it comes to marrying one of a different nationality? (not only american)
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I agree with you miss 'highly favored'.
I am familiar with the terminology 'foreign' and 'yankee' etc. What I'm saying is that when they call..they know my name!..but they don't call and say stuff like..how are you and 'foreign' doing? And you and 'yankee'....instead of just using my name. I'm trying to be positive about it, but it seems like disrespect.

BUT yes...if they don't like it..oh well!
(i jacked that last paragraph all up!)
I meant that

'they DO call and say.....'

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Honestly? There coudl be MANY different reasons for the treatment you describe.

1. Could be paranoia on your part. I doubt this is the case, but you could be reading too deeply into thier calling you a 'foreigner'. As unlikely as it is i must suggest this as a possibility.

2. It could also be a DEEP family trait, that is very much prejudiced against people of other cultures or races. In my family, 90% of all those who have 'succesful' marriages are married to either Jamaicans or at least people of carribean descent. You husband may very well have evolved away from this trait, and adapted so much to US culture that in the long run it will be a non-issue.

3. The other MOST SERIOUS risk is that he has NOT evolved. If he still holds the cultural prejudices deep down, that fact could be playing a role in why his family sound that way.

Solution:
Your husband. He is the best person to talk to his family discreetly and let them know you don't like it. Its also important for you to spend some 'broke time' in jamaica. By that? i mean come here with him and spend FAMILY time that is focussed on your getting to know everyone and them getting to know and relate to you as a human being... you can bring some gifts, but you dont want them to see you as a wealthy "money tree"...so dont brign too much money. Learn some jamaican cooking from the women in his family. Go do stuff with your nephews and nieces and cousins etc. At some point? You will feel safe letting them know how you feel about that 'foreigner' tag. They will eventually take it off you quite ceremoniously.

Be forewarned that like any in-laws? Some may NEVER like you, but that's there choice. All you will do is make sure that it isnt because of anythign you've done or have failed to do.

As strange as it sounds? The name-calling may make it seem unique, but All of this is still the normal process by which families try to come together after a marriage. The fact that there is physical and cultural DISTANCE makes it a bit more 'interesting' and makes it easier for misunderstandings to occur. i doubt it would be much different if you were from italy and carried your jamaican husband home...to italy, or if you were mexican or russian or anythign like that.

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Some female, Jamaican music artists?

**ME**

Okay..I'm around Jamaican dudes all day..so I know all about Movado, and Vybz, and the ones that sing about pu$$y and being a gangsta for life. I've come to realize that they are talking about each other, LOL!

Anyway...what about some female artists..not female rap artists but more like singers..about love etc.

I don't know if all Jamaican music is considered reggae, but I'm wanting to know about female Jamaican artists that sing with an R&B influence...

The only one that comes to mind is an artist named Alaine. Who else?

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Most of the ones that come to mind are more hard and lyrically wicked than the men you mentioned. Tanya Stephens ("gangsta blues" and her recent "Rebelution" feature a harder and softer side to her personality, respectively), Ce'Cile and Lady Saw are alternately raw and soulful in their delivery. Love is always there, as Sizzla say. But, I would look at the Caribbean and Afrikan diasporas if you want R&B and Soul, in the best sense of those terms. I love Tchiya Amet, Mounia Sahara and Queen Ifrika as they have the artistic, and also deep Roots, credentials among the best. The amazing J.C Lodge and Carlene Davis are veterans who have mixed it up. You sound like you know what you're looking for and what most others overlook. Make up your mind to do it yourself, if your lifestyle isn't reflected in JA. It isn't for the faint of heart whether "Black Woman and Child," "Young, Black & Gifted" or just holding it down as the "Queen of the Minstrel" show that is the music business. It is about stamina. Tek care,
DJ Miguels

Does any one know of a good gift from Jamaica?

Jack F.

I am going to leave for Jamaica for one week next weekend and me and my gf are both pretty up set about it. I want to buy her a gift while I am down there, but I do not know what to get her. Does any one know of some thing to get her that she may like that is small, not food, and prefferably Jamaican. If you have never been there then your ideas would still be greatly appreciated!

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go to one of their markets and get her one of the handcarvings of a man and a woman. Lots of vendors will sell them. They are very pretty. There is lots of stuff you can get her. If it makes you think of her, get it.

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Did you know Jamaica has the most beautiful women in the world?

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Q. Jamaican women are also great cooks, great in their professional careers, great mothers and wives. I must find myself with a Jamaican woman. I admire Jamaican women because my mom is a jamaican with all these qualities.

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I am in total agreement with you.Great role models for young girls.They are not only beautiful on the outside.They are truly God's gift to men.

What should I bring as a gift for our Jamaican Nannies?

c_arsen

We are going on a trip to Jamaica and we have 2 nannies assisting us for the time we will be there.
What can we bring them as gifts that are things they need and could use that are not readily or cheaply available to them there?

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Nearly everything is available, just cost 3 times as much. A portable DVD player for example, you can get for $50, costs $150 in JA. So things like that, although women like perfumes, soaps, perhaps a robe or other clothing items....

Money is always good...maybe leave each one a $50 bill, or more if you can afford it & they do an outstanding job for you.

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I need some help writing the conclusion to this report?!? Thanks!!?

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mccamel166

Hey, mahn! If the only things you know about Jamaica all come from a Bob Marley song, then get ready to learn a whole lot more as we explore the lifestyle, holidays & festivals, language and foods of wonderful Jamaica!

Family life in Jamacia is centered more around the mother-child realtionship than around the husband-wife realtionship. Children, not marriage, mark a woman's passage to adulthood. Even today, if a man leaves his family, his children will stay with their mother and her extended family. The women thus plays a central and decisive role in the family. She has access to birth control and will have children when she wants them. Primary health-care clinics provide prenatal and postnatal services for mothers and children.

A Jamaican child spends most of his or her growing-up years with the mother and sees little of the father, who may be working far from home. When they finish school, many young Jamaicans, especially males, go to Kingston to find jobs. Young Jamaican women who have finished formal education may work in various sectors of the economy, such as health care, the civil service, or free- trade zones. Many Jamacians work in the hotels as waiters and housekeeping staff. People also make money by selling food & handicrafts to tourists on the beach. People can lose their jobs easily if the tourisim industry is not highly productive.

Jamaican weddings are big celebrations involving a lot of expense and preparation. Before the wedding, the parents of the young man and woman have a formal meeting. Presents from friends and relatives start arriving long before the wedding day, sometimes months in advance. A common gift is eggs to be used to make the wedding cake. The grandmothers of the couple tradtionally help to choose the couple's clothes for the ceremony. On the night before the wedding, most guests will stay up singing and eating. The church ceremony is an occasion for everyone to dress in their best clothes. The ceremoy is fairly short and is followed by the cutting of the wedding cake, which is typically a fruit cake filled with raisins,currants, and other fruit soaked in rum and wine. Speeches are then made before the happy event ends with a large feast and more merrymaking that continues into the early hours of the morning.

Jamaica has ten public holidays each year, including Christian holidays such as Christmas and Easter. The island also has several festivals. Jamacians celebrate their Independance Day on the first Monday in August. Song and dance events & contests lead up to the day. The festival ends with a costume show and grand parade. Jonkonuu dancing is a Christmas tradition. It began among Jamaicans African salves. Dancers wear colorful customes and spectacular masks. They sing & dance to the rhythm of drums, banjos, and other instruments. Jamacian folklore is rich with African traditions. Anansi, from West African folklore, is a spider man who can take many forms. He plays tricks on people to teach them a lesson. Obeah is a force that can do good or evil. To avoid Obeah, a Jamacian tries not to be too proud about good health or good fortune. Jamacians are proud of who they are. Their culture & traditions bring joy & meaning to everyday life.

Jamacia's offical language is English. Jamacian English vocabulary might give the impression that islanders have been caught up in a time warp. They have perserved some words and phrases found only in Shakespeare's works or in the Bible. Saying goodbye, for example, a Jamaican speaking patios may say "Peradventure I wi' see you tomorrow." A Jamaican might speak of an insect that "biteth like the serpent" or of a "righteous" court decision. Jamaicans are educated in Stanard English. In converstaion, however, Jamaicans mix Standard English wth colloquail words and expressions. The different language levels reflect Jamacia's social levels- the higher the level, the greater the use of Standard English. Among friends and family, pronounciation, vocabulary, and grammar depart radically from Standard English. Standard English will contine to be used in Jamaica because of its importance for international commerce.

Finally, Jamaicans eat many delicious foods that grow on the island. Yams, breadfruits (a large round seedless or seeded fruit with a texture like bread; eaten boiled or baked or roasted or ground into flour; the roasted seeds resemble chestnuts), mangoes, pineapples, bananas and plantains (a greenish banana with a high starch content. It is cooked and eaten as staple food.)are all home grown. Rice with red beans is a popular Jamacian dish. So is jerk meat, which is spicy grilled chicken or pork. A popular breakfast dish is Akee (The edible, fleshy, ripe aril of this tree, especially popular as a food in Jamaica. The seeds and unripe arils are poisonous.) and saltfish.

In conclusion Jamacia

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(The conclusion should tie together your underlying themes. In order to do this, you have to restate the major points of your paper, and then come to an encompassing conclusion based to some extent on what you originally stated in your introduction.)

Clearly, Jamaica is much more than what is referred to in the contents of Bob Marley's song. Although one might not expect it to be, Jamaica is a matriarchial society in which the relationship between children and their mother's is central their upbringing. As would be expected in a matriarchial society, weddings are much more important and are celebrated based on that premise. With regard to holiday celebrations, there are many celebrations unique to Jamaica including their distinct independence celebration. Moreover, despite having English as their language, Jamaican's speak a bifurcated version of English with many remnants from the time of Shakesphere. Even the foods available in Jamaica are unique in that they are based on the culture and the types of vegetables and fish available in Jamaica. References to Jamaica in songs are clearly an oversimplication of the complex and unique culture that one can find in Jamaica. In fact, one could say that there are many nuances to Jamaica and no one lyrical representation no matter how inspired could in fact do them justice.

I am 18 yrs old. but I look younger. Advice?

Chantell

I am a 18 yr. old female jamaican woman... but I look like a 15-16 year old.. How can I look my age? Should I get a piercing would that help?

Answer
embrace it! because later on you'll be like 50 but look 40. its a gift!!

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