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Maggie
I see question after question on here from women who are trying to conceive with their boyfriend. I should apologize to a few because I chimed in telling them to get married first then have babies when it's really none of my business.
I'm just curious why nobody wants to get married before having a baby? Raising children is really really hard. Am I missing something? I'm not THAT old!
Answer
Lots of reasons really...
me and my boyfriend of around 7 years are trying for our first. He is my soul mate, and I think that us deciding to have a baby together is far more of a commitment to each other than standing in front of some old guy at a church saying 'I do' then watching all our friends get drunk at the reception and complain about the canapes.
Not to mention the fact that my father is retired and I WONT ever expect him to cough up money for a wedding. So I'd have to foot the bill...again, once the baby is (conceived first - baby dust, baby dust) born, that money can go to much better use.
Add to that the fact that both of our parents got divorced when we were young, and to be honest, I can't really respect an institution that is results in a 50% divorce rate...would you use contraception that's 50% effective? Why not?
Lastly, neither of us believes in the Christian version of god, so I don't feel it's right to be hypocritical and stand there in front of a priest and listen to things from a bible that I don't believe...yes...yes, I could get them to say something else, but marriage is really a religious thing, and it just doesn't hold water with me.
Perhaps for some people, the idea of marriage means something more...but nothing in this world is going to make me love my partner more than I do already and there is no greater gift we can give each other than a little one who melds us together into a family.
Lots of reasons really...
me and my boyfriend of around 7 years are trying for our first. He is my soul mate, and I think that us deciding to have a baby together is far more of a commitment to each other than standing in front of some old guy at a church saying 'I do' then watching all our friends get drunk at the reception and complain about the canapes.
Not to mention the fact that my father is retired and I WONT ever expect him to cough up money for a wedding. So I'd have to foot the bill...again, once the baby is (conceived first - baby dust, baby dust) born, that money can go to much better use.
Add to that the fact that both of our parents got divorced when we were young, and to be honest, I can't really respect an institution that is results in a 50% divorce rate...would you use contraception that's 50% effective? Why not?
Lastly, neither of us believes in the Christian version of god, so I don't feel it's right to be hypocritical and stand there in front of a priest and listen to things from a bible that I don't believe...yes...yes, I could get them to say something else, but marriage is really a religious thing, and it just doesn't hold water with me.
Perhaps for some people, the idea of marriage means something more...but nothing in this world is going to make me love my partner more than I do already and there is no greater gift we can give each other than a little one who melds us together into a family.
when should a pregnant woman start buying clothes for the baby and what are the essential things u should get?
faridac18
i'm 28 weeks pregnant and this is my first . i was told that u shouldn't get a lot of clothings for the baby because babies grown really fast.i need to know what to get for the baby! Thank you.
Answer
It's a good idea to start buying clothes and supplies now, so you can do it in a leisurely pace and keep an eye out for sales.
Babies do grow fast, especially in the first 3-6 months. A baby will triple it's birth weight in the first year. They won't be in newborn or size 0-3 for long. You will probably get a lot of newborn size gifts. You can also check consignment shops or even Goodwill if you are so inclined. I have had to do baby shopping recently and was really suprised to find that many of the clothes were brand new with tags or in such good condition they were like new.
Clothing wise, some things I would get for the first year are:
---6 Snap-Side Shirts (3 in size 0-3 months, 3 in size 3-6 months)
These undershirts are a "wraparound" type and either snap or tie at one side. I found these essential with newborns + infants because you can just lay them on top, put arms in + close rather than trying to get a wobbly head and arms into a regular t-shirt.
---4 Onesies (2 in size 0-3 months, 2 in size 3-6 months)
These are like one piece bodysuits that snap at the crotch
---4 Infant Gowns (usually one size, up to 20 lbs)
These tie at bottom with draw strings, making it easy for diaper changes as well as bundling up, carrying around and keeping feet warm.
---6 Sleepers/Stretch Suits (3 in size 0-3 months, 2 in size 3-6 months)
These are the terry cloth or cotton one piece suits that cover head to toe. Cotton is nice and breatheable for all seasons. Make sure that these have a snap crotch for quick and easy changes.
---4 Pairs of Booties or Socks
These tend to fall off alot, so get ones slightly longer than ankle length and with stretch elastic band at cuff
---4 Receiving Blankets
The most popular are thermal and flannel. The thermal kind are the best for swaddling newborns.
---1 Sweater and Hat or Special Outfit
For coming-home-from-the-hospital or special occasions. A snap Front cardigan and pants set is nice.
---4 Drool Bibs
These are a must if you want to keep baby dry in front. Look for velcro or snap closure to get on + off easily
---4 Terry Cloth Bath towels
I like the hooded ones to keep babys head warm
---6 Washcloths
For bathtime and general face and hand cleaning
---12 Cloth Diapers
These are perfect burp cloths and have other uses as well. You will be using these for a long time
Whatever you get make sure it snaps or zips at the crotch rather than just up the stomach! The quantities are just a guideline. You might prefer to have more or less or you may get alot as gifts. I found it better to have more than less because alot of items get "messed up" very quickly and the more you have the longer you can go without laundering tiny loads. You might get an extra set of things to keep ready in a diaper bag so you don't have to pack each time; it's ready to go.
Also, think ahead! A real moneysaver for me was to purchase clothing for the following year season (and sometimes all-season) from clearance racks in all stores. Items are marked down incredibly, and you may even see the same thing you were going to buy at full retail. For example, a baby born in April would be one year old the following April so you could shop the spring clearance for the first time and keep your eyes open at each end of season to add to your collection. Pretty soon you will have a very nice collection of clothes and be ready for each new season and size beforehand. For sizes, go by the rule of "triple birth weight in one year", or get a 12-18 month size for growth and long wear.
Oh yeah, don't forget to stock up on diapers!
Best Wishes for the New Baby!
It's a good idea to start buying clothes and supplies now, so you can do it in a leisurely pace and keep an eye out for sales.
Babies do grow fast, especially in the first 3-6 months. A baby will triple it's birth weight in the first year. They won't be in newborn or size 0-3 for long. You will probably get a lot of newborn size gifts. You can also check consignment shops or even Goodwill if you are so inclined. I have had to do baby shopping recently and was really suprised to find that many of the clothes were brand new with tags or in such good condition they were like new.
Clothing wise, some things I would get for the first year are:
---6 Snap-Side Shirts (3 in size 0-3 months, 3 in size 3-6 months)
These undershirts are a "wraparound" type and either snap or tie at one side. I found these essential with newborns + infants because you can just lay them on top, put arms in + close rather than trying to get a wobbly head and arms into a regular t-shirt.
---4 Onesies (2 in size 0-3 months, 2 in size 3-6 months)
These are like one piece bodysuits that snap at the crotch
---4 Infant Gowns (usually one size, up to 20 lbs)
These tie at bottom with draw strings, making it easy for diaper changes as well as bundling up, carrying around and keeping feet warm.
---6 Sleepers/Stretch Suits (3 in size 0-3 months, 2 in size 3-6 months)
These are the terry cloth or cotton one piece suits that cover head to toe. Cotton is nice and breatheable for all seasons. Make sure that these have a snap crotch for quick and easy changes.
---4 Pairs of Booties or Socks
These tend to fall off alot, so get ones slightly longer than ankle length and with stretch elastic band at cuff
---4 Receiving Blankets
The most popular are thermal and flannel. The thermal kind are the best for swaddling newborns.
---1 Sweater and Hat or Special Outfit
For coming-home-from-the-hospital or special occasions. A snap Front cardigan and pants set is nice.
---4 Drool Bibs
These are a must if you want to keep baby dry in front. Look for velcro or snap closure to get on + off easily
---4 Terry Cloth Bath towels
I like the hooded ones to keep babys head warm
---6 Washcloths
For bathtime and general face and hand cleaning
---12 Cloth Diapers
These are perfect burp cloths and have other uses as well. You will be using these for a long time
Whatever you get make sure it snaps or zips at the crotch rather than just up the stomach! The quantities are just a guideline. You might prefer to have more or less or you may get alot as gifts. I found it better to have more than less because alot of items get "messed up" very quickly and the more you have the longer you can go without laundering tiny loads. You might get an extra set of things to keep ready in a diaper bag so you don't have to pack each time; it's ready to go.
Also, think ahead! A real moneysaver for me was to purchase clothing for the following year season (and sometimes all-season) from clearance racks in all stores. Items are marked down incredibly, and you may even see the same thing you were going to buy at full retail. For example, a baby born in April would be one year old the following April so you could shop the spring clearance for the first time and keep your eyes open at each end of season to add to your collection. Pretty soon you will have a very nice collection of clothes and be ready for each new season and size beforehand. For sizes, go by the rule of "triple birth weight in one year", or get a 12-18 month size for growth and long wear.
Oh yeah, don't forget to stock up on diapers!
Best Wishes for the New Baby!
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