Showing posts with label gift for women marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label gift for women marriage. Show all posts

Saturday, May 31, 2014

why does islam say that women should be covered?




i are teh


before i type further, i'd like to say i don't know Much about this religion, so please do correct me if i get anything wrong. isn't your body a gift from Allah? why, then, are women meant to hide most of it, showing only their face or eyes? are they viewed as something to be ashamed of? inferior? not individual? what happened?


Answer
Do Women and Men have equal rights?Indeed,Muslim women have,and had since 600 A.D.. Non-Muslim women have been oppressed and suppressed for centuries.Judaism and Christianity consider women to be an inferior species,born sinners,unclean etc. As for atheism,it is not a religion,and thus have no rules.If a chauvinist leader is elected,he may decide to revoke a law allowing women to vote and replace it with one that forbids it.And again, another leader may come up and pass another Bill declaring owning of property by women to be illegal etc.And of course,a just leader may appear centuries later and declare women and men to be equalâ¦. However,since this is so unreliable,we cannot say that atheism gives women rights.In the early 18th century,the English critic Daniel Defoe denounced marriage as "legalized prostitution." English law dispossessed any woman who married,with the notable exception of England's queens.Women were not allowed to own property or land or to control their own assets.William Blackstone,a celebrated 18th century jurist, put it this way:"By marriage, the very being or legal existence of a woman is suspended,or at least incorporated or consolidated into that of the husband,under whose wing, protection, or cover she performs everything."
With the advent of Islam came the verse from the Quran elevating women,honoring them and giving them equal rights with men.Though as we notice in some cases,women have been given greater privilege that men(as in the case when a Muslim woman marries,she becomes an owner of her husbandâs property,BUT her property remains hers alone, and her husband has no right over her wealth).
But Islam makes it clear that women and men are 100% equal in every possible way.In fact,the greatest and most learned scholar,or Imaam in Islam was a woman,the first Muslim on Earth was a woman,the greatest general in Islamic history was a woman(who had led one of the most powerful contingent of armed men, in 7th century Arabia),and 14 centuries earlier,Muslim women were governors of âIslamicâ countries,and women help powerful positions all over the Islamic world.
Can we yet forget how in early 18th century European leaders gathered in Paris to decide whether women should be regarded as humans or animals!?And I would not be surprised if another century later, non-Muslim leaders gather to vote to brand women as animals once again.You see, is there any law preventing them from this?Yes,we may be relieved to see that Islamic laws(i.e. The Quran)remains in its pristine form and has not been changed, and shall never be changed. Thus, our rights are protected within this Great Book.Inherently contentful, the Quranâs authenticity has never been questioned. And this Quran,the direct speech of our Lord,the intelligible light,the bridge by which we shall return to salvation,is present,sustaining and illuminating.
Sir Charles Edward Archibald Hamilton says about Islam:âIslam teaches the inherent sinlessness of man.It teaches that man and women have come from the same essence, possess the same soul and have been equipped with equal capabilities for intellectual, spiritual and moral attainments.âIslam came as the defender of the fairer sex and entitled women to share in the inheritance.It gave women,centuries ago,the right of owning property.Yet it was only 12 centuries later, in 1881, that England, supposed to be the cradle of democracy,adopted this institution of Islam and an Act was passed,called the âMarried Womenâs Actâ.But a thousand years before our time,Islam assured women that they shall have every right and every opportunity as men have. Muslim women never had to bite and fight for their rights as we had.Our Creator ensured that this invincible, just law shall remain until the Last Day,and women will never again be considered as the âweaker sexâ.

Anniversary Gifts from Girlfriend?




Greg Staff


Hi everyone :),

I must confess that I am new to dating since I haven't dated for five or so years up until now. I have been with my partner for two months now, and although we have had a few fights, we've always come good. Anyways in the week leading up to both the first and second month anniversaries, she reminded me excitedly of the impending anniversary. On the first one I bought her twelve red roses and took her out to dinner at a restaurant, and on the second, got a really nice and good quality teddy bear that was holding a I Love You heart. She said thankyou and genuinely looked like she enjoyed the gifts. However she got me nothing, not even a card for either of the anniversaries.

I approached her tonight about it, asking what her thoughts were on anniversaries when should they be celebrated etc etc, and why she didn't get me anything not even a card. Asked her if it was because she expected me not to get her anything, or that she wasn't serious about me. She replied back that "no it was really unexpected, i think that gifts should be on major anniversary dates rather than everyone" to which I replied that she should dictate the anniversary dates then. She replied "ouch, but i think 100 days, 1 year, 3 years, 1000 days, and maybe 5 years". To which she added that "it's hard to me you said you were a minimalist, hard for me to get you a permanent physical gift."


Am I being paranoid that she hasn't given me anything for the first two anniversaries? I mean she helps out and tries to get me to buy clothes and stuff, and she tries to look after my grooming, and we go shopping together and hang out a lot. But is she making excuses by saying that she doesn't know what to get me, not even a card? Because she keeps saying she's serious but it doesn't appear that she is. Or am I thinking too much into it?



Answer
Traditionally Anniversaries and Valentines Day are Days Men give women gifts, although it is becoming more popular for a woman to give a man an anniversary or Valentines Day Gift. If you look in stores and see the products available for anniversaries and Valentines Day they are usually geared to women ( tradition) unless you are celebrating a milestone marriage anniversary in which the wedding couple usually will receive gifts for the both of them, but even then most of the gifts received are housewares. This is why she probably isn't buying you a gift, she may not consider it appropriate because her family may follow the tradition and if you keep hounding her about it she may consider you selfish, silly and too immature for her.




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Thursday, January 9, 2014

Why does Allah forbid Muslim men to love a girl?

Q. Why is it that Allah Almighty allows everyone else to love a girl(meaning that He only wants the men to be only friends with the women). Why doesn't he allow Men in Islam to be more than friends with women before marriage if they can still hang out with them without having sex before marriage. In other words, why is it that men are only allowed to be just friends with women in Islam?


Answer
Islam controls sexuality before marriage, because sexuality is a precious gift which should be reserved for one's spouse and be like a flower that blooms slowly. When you make something very accessible, it loses its value. When sexuality is controlled, it is more charming and in the end, it's more pleasurable. Otherwise, people keep searching for greater and greater fun, and yet remain unsatisfied. That's because our human bodies are very limited and they do grow old and weak.

Islam is not against love, which is a natural instinct. It's also not against friendship with the opposite sex, as long as it's out in the open and there is no secret get-together or date. Friendship can also be through Internet chatting, as long as it's respectful. The goal should be to find a marriage partner and not just flirt. This also protects girls from being abused, because the natural instincts of a boy is to use a girl and move on to others, unless there is some committeemen and social pressures to make the relationship permanent.

This system produces better relationships and keep families together. There are no issues with unwanted pregnancies or fewer instances of a single parent raising a child. It allows a man to get a career and mature a little before starting a family. So, in the end, it all works out in the interest of all parties.

What were marriage and weddings like in the Elizabethan era?




Rebecca C


I need to know what the wedding and marriage like for the rich, middle and poor Elizabethans.


Answer
This breaks it down pretty well...

Arranged Marriages
Just as today a woman's wedding was one of the most important days of her life. The major difference to Elizabethan wedding customs to a modern day Western marriage is that the woman had very little, if any, choice in who her husband might be. Elizabethan Women were subservient to men. They were dependent on their male relatives to support them. Elizabethan woman were raised to believe that they were inferior to men and that men knew better! Disobedience was seen as a crime against their religion. Marriages were frequently arranged so that both families involved would benefit. Marriages would be arranged to bring prestige or wealth to the family - a surprising fact is that young men were treated in a similar way as to women! Many couples would meet for the very first time on their wedding day! This particular Elizabethan custom usually applied to the nobility but the married or religious life were the only real options for the Elizabethans ( a career for a woman was absolutely unheard of!) Regardless of their social standing women and men were expected to marry. Single women who were thought to be witches by their neighbours...

Elizabethan Marriage and Weddings - The Dowry or Marriage Portion
Elizabethan women were expected to bring a dowry to the marriage. A dowry was an amount of money, goods, and property that the bride would bring to the marriage. It was also referred to as her marriage portion. After marriage Elizabethan women were expected to run the households and provide children. The law gave a husband full rights over his wife. She effectively became his property.

Elizabethan Marriage and Wedding Customs - The Age of Consent
With parental permission the legal age for Elizabethan marriages was as follows:

it was legal for boys to marry at 14

it was legal for girls to marry at the age of 12

It was not usual or traditional for marriages at such young ages. The actual age of consent was 21. Elizabethan men would generally not marry until this age.

Elizabethan Church Marriage and Wedding Information
Arrangements for Elizabethan weddings would have been with the local church. Weddings were always a religious ceremony, conducted by a minister. The religions varied but the legal process prior to the wedding was always the same. There were no Registry Office marriages or marriages conducted by a Justice of the Peace. The first stage was Crying the Banns, announcing a couples intention to marry. The same procedure still applies to Church marriages in England today. The Elizabethan Wedding custom dictated that the couple's intention to marry had to be announced in the church three times on three consecutive Sundays or Holy days. This allowed time for any objections to be raised or pre-contracts to be discovered. Any marriage not published beforehand was considered clandestine and illegal. Wedding invitations were not issued. People lived in small communities and knew what was happening in common life. If there was an Elizabethan wedding then people would just attend. Gifts were occasionally given to the Bride and Groom.

Elizabethan Marriage and Wedding Contracts
Should a couple need to marry in haste an alternative, faster, route to legalising a marriage required a Marriage Bond which acted as a contract, security and proof to a Bishop that the issue of a Marriage Licence was lawful. The Marriage Bond was accompanied with a sworn statement that there were no pre-contract. The issue of a Marriage Bond would require only one reading of the Banns - thus saving a couple of weeks. Such a Marriage Bond was required by Anne Hathaway and William Shakespeare - Anne was 26 years old and pregnant. William Shakespeare was only 18 and under the age of consent. Elizabethan wedding customs and contracts would have required that his father would have had to agree to the marriage.

Elizabethan Marriage and Wedding Customs - Preparing for the wedding ceremony
The Bride and Groom would be attended by their family and close friends. The color of the wedding clothes were varied - the tradition of wearing white came much later. A bridal procession would move from the family's house to the church. This was a particularly festive event and the procession would be accompanied by musicians. Additional information may be accessed from Elizabethan Wedding Dress.

Elizabethan Marriage and Wedding Customs - The ceremony
Once at the church the ceremony would be a solemn one. In Elizabethan times everyone would stand as there were no pews in the churches. When the marriage ceremony was over the wedding procession would return to their homes. The families of the couple would sometimes enjoy a wedding feast and were wished a long and happy life.

Elizabethan Marriage and Wedding Reception & Food
It was an Elizabethan Wedding custom to celebrate the marriage with a wedding feast. The special feast had to be carefully planned. The menu was discussed and arrangements for acquiring the content of the more exotic dishes, such a peacock, had to be made. The Elizabethans were keen on presenting dishes as attractively as possible - in the case of the peacock its colorful feathers would adorn the dish. Bread and sweetmeats would also be prepared. Sweet and Spicy foods were extremely popular and many of the dishes would be highly flavored. The staple drink of the Elizabethans was ale (water was unclean) but wine was also available and would have been ordered for the wedding feast.

Elizabethan Life after Marriage
Large families were the norm as the mortality rate for children and babies was so high. Many Elizabethan woman made arrangement for the care of their children in case they themselves died during childbirth.




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